And another thing....about freedom.

When a moral choice is discussed, either in reference to the choice of a friend or one's own, it is helpful to keep in mind that the choice is in fact that of the individual, not of the parents or the society.  And that the choice is best judged in light of the relationship one has with God, in reference to our nature, our dignity.  Choices are best understood as a positive conforming to the human dignity we have been given rather than a conforming to societal (church or otherwise) norms.  This kind of choice is powerful and resonates internally rather than becoming a reluctant or resentful limiting according to the expectations of others.